Carol ReMarks
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Carol ReMarks
Weather Whims, Football Drama, and Finding Love Again
What if the unpredictable weather in the South is not just a quirky charm but a sign of something bigger? Grab a cup of your favorite breakfast blend coffee and buckle up for a fun ride through the whirlwind of Southern living and its ever-changing climate. We muse over how humans adapt to these wild swings and sprinkle in a bit of humor about public figures and the fascinating evolution of climate change terminology. Hold onto your hat as we transition from pondering meteorological mysteries to the latest college football dramas, complete with surprising upsets that left even Alabama fans with mouths agape.
Curious about how a little family humor can lighten the mood after a shocking game? We share a playful anecdote about swapped team allegiances and our ongoing culinary adventures with our child's finicky palate. It's not all touchdowns and taste tests, though. We dive into our Sunday routine with a delightfully perplexing "Dear Abby" letter that has all the twists of a soap opera. Could there really be manipulation and co-dependency at play, or is it all a dramatic fabrication? You'll laugh and scratch your head over this tangled relationship web.
Ever wondered how you'd find love again as you grow older? We wrap up with a thought-provoking question about choosing between online dating and more traditional methods. Sharing our own humorous take on finding companionship, we reflect on the quirks of living with someone as the years pass by. Thank you for joining us on this episode filled with laughter, surprises, and a few deep questions. We look forward to sharing more captivating stories and discussions in future episodes.
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Good morning, happy Sunday.
Speaker 2:Good morning one and all Beautiful day in the neighborhood.
Speaker 1:Or in the fall and winter, as I like to call it, the day after football.
Speaker 2:Yes, it is. This week's weather is going to get nice too. It's going to get down into the low 80s and the high 50s, and then next week we're going into the 70s and the 40s.
Speaker 1:I love it. So fall will be here. Yes, that'll be our two weeks worth of fall, and then we'll go back to hot weather and then immediately cold.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it'll be about 80 degrees one day and then the next day it'll be 30.
Speaker 1:We'll have two weeks of nice, actual fall weather.
Speaker 2:Yep, but that's the South. Yeah, that's the way it is, you know, that's what we love.
Speaker 1:Yes, Coffee's great this morning, dear.
Speaker 2:Coffee is good what kind is it you?
Speaker 2:know this is just a breakfast blend. I think breakfast blend. I think when you said that about this is the weather and that we got, I was thinking about climate change oh my God, climate change. And the thing I thought about was people in Alaska, where they're used to living and have adapted living in cold weather, and people on the equator have adapted and live in warm weather, and just thinking about the climates and the different temperatures that people live in, how humans are adaptive to, where they are, but yet we make such a big deal out of being hot and being cold and all that stuff. I don't know. It was a thought. Mine was the ramblings of a 62-year-old man who just got up and is drinking coffee.
Speaker 1:Next to a beautiful woman.
Speaker 2:Next to a beautiful woman.
Speaker 1:I had to add that.
Speaker 2:It didn't take me long to adapt to that. I kind of fit right into that one. That was easy. That was the easy part. All right and adapted to a woman who had adapted to me is the big thing to say.
Speaker 1:You know, speaking of weather, we're talking about and people. Do you think climate change is real?
Speaker 2:Yes, absolutely, the climate changes every year. Duh, I love you. Now is it a. You know what are they?
Speaker 1:Hold on. What's the weather between climate and weather?
Speaker 2:What's the difference between climate and weather? Yeah, hold on. What's the weather between climate and weather? What's the difference between climate and weather? Yeah, I guess climate's over a period of time and the weather changes from minute to minute.
Speaker 1:Okay, but you know, let's just go back and talk about this just for a second, now that you brought it up. Well, I bring it up because the old man who took 30 seconds to sit down into a chair the other day to talk about the hurricane I don't know if you saw that clip or not, I put it, embedded it in one of my victor girls posts he's just shuffled out there on stage and he needed assistance to sit down in a chair and he just was so slow robot. It was just. It was awful to watch. But then he sat there later in his little talk he he said anybody who doesn't believe in climate change is brain dead. Because you know they talk about these hurricanes getting more intense and blah, blah, blah.
Speaker 2:I won't go through my whole timeline of this, but I guess that all goes back to what I just said. We adapt to the earth. The earth has gone through I don't know how long has the earth been here a few billion years and we've been here talking about recording weather for oh, I don't know 150 years, and we're going to really think that we're that so powerful that what we do is going to change the earth. The earth will adapt to us. We'll adapt to the earth. The earth's going to change. We're going to go through hot spells, we're going to go through cold spells. We're going to go through that whole, every bit of it, and to say that it's such an existential threat that we have to, you know, bow to and change every aspect of our lives, for it is bull doodoo yeah, I agree I did not do I did not mean for us to get off on a tangent there on the weather and climate.
Speaker 1:I really wanted to talk about football. I wanted you to recap in our little sports segment here on the Carol Remarks podcast with the Jets. Do your recap of your sports day.
Speaker 2:We'll do that. But I want to touch one more thing. Okay, okay, we were worried about an ice age. A few, you know, during my lifetime, which has only spanned 60 years so far, we've been warned of an ice age. We've been warned of melting. In five years the Earth's going to be underwater. Look at how the water's rising. You know it's gone from.
Speaker 1:We're not going to have an ozone.
Speaker 2:It's gone from. You know what. It's gone from global warming to you know they keep changing the words. So now it's gone to climate change, which can be defined as anything. So therefore, they can say climate change and be right. They are right. The climate is changing. It changes every day. This existential threat is just nothing. Football was great yesterday All right, do tell.
Speaker 2:Football was pretty outstanding yesterday. There were just giving the fun recaps. Let's see Tennessee lost to Arkansas. Now, if people don't know, I did live in Arkansas for a period of time and I did go to school out there, so I do have a little bit of a tender spot for the Hog. It was kind of great to see that happen. And then there was another game. Who was it that played Alabama? Oh yeah, that's the one. Alabama lost to Vanderbilt. Now here's the fun thing about that.
Speaker 2:Being a Georgia fan and we lost to Alabama last week being a Georgia fan, I start thinking about these things. What happens if Alabama and Georgia are both one-loss teams when it comes to the end of the year and they have to go to pick which team makes the playoffs? This is all just musings of an old, 62 year old man. What happens if they, you know, have to choose between the two and everybody said well, heads up between you two. Uh, alabama beat georgia, so alabama got in. But the only thing we have to say back to it and it trumps every bit of it is but y'all lost to vanderbilt. That trumps it all. You can't even say uh, but you know, we beat y'all. No, I'm sorry you lost to vanderbilt now.
Speaker 1:Did you watch any of it?
Speaker 2:I watched a good bit of it. Yes, and vanderbilt beat them. They were just outplayed. And here's the big thing about that they were outcoached, that's what I was going to get to. And that's going to. You know, the first half of the Georgia game, georgia was just kind of they weren't quite sure what the hell was going on. I think maybe they were overhyped. The second half, they pretty much beat the shit out of it. They pretty much beat the hell out of Alabama Georgia.
Speaker 2:The whole game it looked like DeBoer was outcoached by the coach from Vanderbilt. So you know, this honeymoon that you guys are on for beating us maybe not as great, I don't know. You know it all just. But you know, nick Saban never lost to Vanderbilt and this coach has already lost to Vanderbilt.
Speaker 1:So I'm just confused about how come Alabama beat Georgia then.
Speaker 2:That's what I was saying. They just got such how come Alabama beat Georgia? Then that's what I was saying we got way too far behind because we were either unexpected of what they were doing or just didn't match up well, and in the second half we just couldn't come back from that big a deficit.
Speaker 1:But you did come back and you were ahead at one point.
Speaker 2:Yeah, absolutely, absolutely. And we had a chance to win it at the end of the game too. Yeah, but that doesn't matter. Alabama lost to Vanderbilt. Oh goodness, do you?
Speaker 1:know who Alabama plays next?
Speaker 2:Oh it doesn't matter. Okay, you know for Alabama fans that season's over, it's over, it's over. But I will say that on social media yesterday Alabama fans came out and talked about how they were beaten and they took it like what did you call that? Veiled humility.
Speaker 1:Veiled humility.
Speaker 2:Veiled humility. They were trying to be humble and it just didn't work. Sorry, you lost to Vanderbilt, yeah.
Speaker 1:And we had the baby yesterday. I keep calling him baby. At one point in time I'm going to have to start calling him something else, but he is my baby doll.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and he took off his Alabama shirt when they were losing. He threw it on the ground and said go dogs, sick them.
Speaker 1:He did not. He was wearing a little Alabama shirt, but he didn't take it off.
Speaker 2:Took it off, stomped it on the ground. That would be so funny, said bring back Saban, ran around the table stomping mad. Bring back Saban. Oh no, no, he was fresh, he had a little cold yesterday he was a little stuffy. He wasn't quite as rambunctious as he usually is, yeah, but he was still active.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, very active Didn't seem like he was sick, uh-uh.
Speaker 2:Didn't seem like he was sick, but he sniffled and had the runny nose and played with his cars. He loves those cars, he absolutely loves those cars. And he loves cake pops. Yeah, and we got him to eat some, actually some.
Speaker 2:French fries and he nibbled on his fish sticks. Yeah, nibbled. Yeah, I'm not so sure that. I don't know why. You know, of course Dad said that he was eating fish sticks and we tried to get him to eat what we call pigs in a blanket. Of course Dad said that he was eating fish chicks and we tried to get him to eat what we call pigs in a blanket. We talked about it yesterday and he wouldn't have any part of that.
Speaker 1:So I don't know, maybe when he gets older, when we can sit him down and he can understand.
Speaker 2:Maybe I'll make some candied bacon.
Speaker 1:There you go, some candied bacon.
Speaker 2:There you go, Some candied bacon. We got to get that boy eating bacon. I know people are out there going that's going to stop up that kid's arteries.
Speaker 1:No, he needs protein.
Speaker 2:Just like climate change. Way back when, people in caves weren't worried about their diets they were eating meat. I guess I could eat some meat.
Speaker 1:All right, let's move on. Okay, let's go, let's do some deer abbeys. Okay, I want to do some deer abbeys. It's Sunday Normally. I think we've kind of fallen into this routine about doing dear abby's on sunday with you. Okay, I have this one, if I can find it here. It is so weird oh boy, you're gonna surprise me. Yes, of course I started reading it the other day and then I had to stop, oh goodness, because I'm like what? Let me see if I can find it.
Speaker 1:Well, this ought to be interesting all right, all right, here we go ready. Oh gosh, it's so bizarre again. I think this is one of these that was made up by the staff writers.
Speaker 2:And you know, dear abby, my best friend keeps kissing and sleeping with me and saying it's platonic, what let's stop yeah, I know my best friend keeps sleeping with me kissing and sleeping with me so you're not kissing back and allowing her to sleep, right?
Speaker 1:okay, go ahead dear abby, my best, as he has labeled our relationship.
Speaker 2:Of course.
Speaker 1:Yeah, labeled our relationship moved in with me eight months ago. He claims to have no romantic feelings for me. Despite this, he sleeps in my bed next to me and kisses me. He claims to be asleep when he does it and says he doesn't remember it happening.
Speaker 2:Sly bastard when he does it and says he doesn't remember it happening, sly bastard.
Speaker 1:He encourages us to be sexually intimate and texts me daily I miss you messages. When I leave town to visit my mom, he says he doesn't want to be with me because he doesn't see me that way. He also talks to another girl. He claims they're also just friends and have only a platonic connection, but I've seen kissy emojis, miss you text and new photos they've exchanged.
Speaker 1:Oh my gosh, what in the world? I feel used and asked him to leave, but he refused to acknowledge my request. Dear heavens. When I asked him why he lives with me, he said it's because I am a better alternative to sleeping on his mom's couch next to her dog. I cannot express how painful it was to hear that At this point. He owes me a thousand dollars in unpaid rent and I'm over feeling like I fell in love with someone who doesn't have the capacity to love even himself. How do I get this guy out of my house and out of my heart so I no longer feel like I live in? Maid, concubine, bank account chef and personal assistant in exchange for this privilege of being mistreated used in georgia? What in the world? Oh my god, it's not funny they're not having sex.
Speaker 2:But she says no, they're having sex oh, they are yes oh, okay I believe that's what sleeping with means oh, yeah, I guess so, but it being that descriptive in the whole thing, she could have just said we're having sex instead of sleeping with. Well, yeah, you know, yeah, well, I guess they didn't want it to be a penthouse for them, sort of sounded like yeah, I mean, what do you think is going on here?
Speaker 1:and she can't get him to leave. What in the world this guy sounds like I don't know.
Speaker 2:Well, he's just taking advantage of the situation. You know, she's got problems, very much so, and she says you know, Codependent or something you know? Is she in love with this guy? Does she need him to pay rent? Is she using him for the rent? He's taking it as a well. You know, if I pay rent, I get sex too.
Speaker 1:She wants him to leave, though, and he won't do it.
Speaker 2:You know what you do you kick him out, change the locks. Call the cops. You're done, get out of here.
Speaker 1:It's scary, it's real easy. Well, that's what you say. Easier said than done.
Speaker 2:It didn't sound like they went into this as a relationship. Mm-hmm, it sounded like he just moved in because, you know, like you said, he sounds like a creep. Well, you know, you said in the thing he said that he does these things and says he's in his sleep. He's doing that. Yeah, that doesn't sound like they're sleeping together. It sounds like he's just doing these things, you know.
Speaker 1:I think you're losing the point here. Well, I'm saying I think they are having sex. I think it is. I don't think it's just sleeping and him kissing her. Okay, well, and why does she only have? Why Does she only have a one-bedroom apartment? Does he not have a bedroom to go to?
Speaker 2:As only an alternative is his mom's couch, with sleeping with a dog.
Speaker 1:Right, something's up. We need more to the story. I say kick him out, but, like I said, it's easier said than done. Something's wrong, something's weird. I think it's a made-up story.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I think it is too. I think it's all done to make us sit here and say you know what the hell?
Speaker 1:all right, let's see what dear abby has to say about it. She's gonna say get rid of them, we'll see. All right, dear used. How do you get this poor excuse for a man out of your heart from the tone of your letter? You already more than halfway there. Turn off the money spigot, quit cooking and washing his clothes for him and when he climbs into your bed, kick him out of it and tell him if he wants sex, to get it from his other friend. It would be money well spent for you to consult an attorney about this refusal to leave your dwelling, because it may take a formal eviction. There you have it.
Speaker 2:God bless her.
Speaker 1:That's all I can say.
Speaker 2:What's the other one? Bless her heart, bless her heart. Bless her heart, lord. I don't know if I can take another one. That was something I'm looking.
Speaker 1:You keep talking. I'm trying to look for something.
Speaker 2:Well, you know the only thing I could think is that you know you have to be suckered into all that kind of thing. It really it sounded to me more like she moved in a roommate who started taking you know liberties and got out of hand and it sounds like he's trying to be a sponge. Yeah, I mean that's, and that's the thing I worry about too though I didn't really bring it up was if he's living there, does he have, do you have to have an eviction to get him out? I mean, if he's not paying rent and he's not doing anything like that, is he? Does he actually formally live there?
Speaker 1:yeah, that's a sticky situation.
Speaker 2:I'm not sure how that would work you know, and you know why can't you say just get the hell out of my house. He has a place to go, his mom's.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:So it's not like you're putting him out on the street and I wouldn't even be worried about that.
Speaker 1:He can go. He's a grown man. He'll find something. I wouldn't be worried about where. Well, where's he going to go live? I don't care.
Speaker 2:Get out of my house because you're not living here anymore. That's crazy. That's crazy stuff. All right, here we go. Here's the next one. I don't.
Speaker 1:I did see a meme today that had a picture of tampon tim next to don rickles. Oh my god, I knew. Yes, yes, that's that's you know.
Speaker 2:Yes, I can't believe that they're actually going to demean Tom.
Speaker 1:Don, I know it, I know and that's what I'm saying. It was upsetting, I know. And when they keep calling him gay, I'm like you're demeaning the gay people. He's way more than just gay. He's way past gay. Keep him away from the little boys. Okay, that's all I'm saying.
Speaker 2:Okay them away from the little boys okay, that's what, that's all I'm saying.
Speaker 1:Okay, what's the next? All right, the next one. Dear abby, I'm a mature male who had a weight problem years ago when I turned 50. I was diagnosed with metabolic syndrome, hypertension and diabetes. I took my doctor's advice about diet and 150 minutes of exercise a week. Fast forward to today and I have lost almost half of my body weight and now in good, and now I'm in good shape.
Speaker 1:My problem now is finding a woman near or around my age who have the same dedication to exercise and fitness. It is nearly impossible to find a partner who shares the same values. I have tried dating sites. I almost always get catfished. I almost always get catfished. I go on dates but if I'm not physically attracted to someone, things don't get out of the friend zone. I feel physically attracted to Wait. I feel physical attraction drives a good part of a healthy relationship. Sure, it does. In the beginning maybe I value having friends, but finding someone who can run, bike, kayak etc to me vital to a successful relationship. Should I settle to have someone to spend time with or keep the faith and hope I find a woman I'm attracted to? I've had little luck finding a compatible partner. Well discouraged in Memphis.
Speaker 2:I would say that you just hadn't found the right one. Keep looking. Or maybe it means that you won't find the perfect one and you needed to dedicate your life to something else, maybe taking what you've learned and giving it to other people through teaching them how to diet and to do other things. That may be the way to go. The woman in your life will fall into your life when God wants it to fall into your life. That's the way I look at it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I agree. My question is do you have to have someone identical to you? Oh, absolutely not To fall in love with or be with for the rest of your life? Uh-uh, absolutely not I understand he wants the woman to be fit and in shape, sure, but that doesn't mean she has to enjoy kayaking and outdoor activity and all that other crap All the time.
Speaker 2:Yeah, no, uh-uh.
Speaker 1:But I mean, I guess that's a way to spend time together.
Speaker 2:But there are people out there that would enjoy that. You just have to keep looking.
Speaker 1:you know impatience there's lots of women out there that enjoy kayaking and hiking and outdoor crap.
Speaker 2:I'm not sure they live in Nashville, memphis, memphis, especially Memphis. You might need to move somewhere. You might need to.
Speaker 1:You know that may be the thing to do, but I understand what he's saying, because there are a lot of people that don't exercise and take their physical fitness seriously. There's an age group, whatever 50 years, whatever. I understand that. Sure, sure it is true. I can see that it's probably very rare to find a woman.
Speaker 2:But, like I said, you can't force that type of thing. So right, you know, maybe maybe you do have to say, well, okay, I mean, someone maybe does part of this a little bit, or or whatever, but it's not just about having somebody who is exactly like you. Yeah, all right, let's look in the mirror and see me, you know, stand next to me all the time.
Speaker 1:God, all right, let's see what dear abby says, because we are at 24 minutes.
Speaker 2:We need to cut this short.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I'm using up all of my stuff. Okay, dear discouraged. Physical attraction is important, but what attracts us to others varies from person to person. You don't have to be lonely because physical fitness is so important in your life, in addition to chemistry. Continue to look online. If you do, you will find there is more than one dating site geared to folks who are interested in health and fitness. I wish you luck. All right, there you go, we have to go. Oh, we need a question of the day, though. My goodness, hang on. All right, the gent has the question of the day.
Speaker 2:It's related to what we just read yes, following along the lines of the dear abby, if you ever had to find a new partner in life, would you, like she said, go online and try to find one, or would you do it the old-fashioned way, by going to church?
Speaker 1:that's the question of the day now for me. I wouldn't. I wouldn't even try yeah my age.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I think I'd be kind of, I think I'd you know who'd want to live with this stop with noises and sounds and stuff emanating from the body the whole time.
Speaker 1:All right, we got to go. Thanks for listening.
Speaker 2:See you.
Speaker 1:Go Dawgs.
